The Chicken or the Egg?

[michaelboy]

In Plutarch's dilemma of Infinite Regression:



The need to be wanted is often way more powerful and essential in regard to well-being than any imaginable personal sentiment, expression, or manifestation of outward desire for another.

More simply put: to believe someone wants us is often the key to our desire for them.

Surely, anyone can love another without a physical component, but without it, there isn't always an equitable foundation.

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[keplers_angels]

After one of my many breakups I vowed to never again say yes to someone I wasn't sure about. Not "take a chance" on someone out of polite curiosity or because *they* wanted *me.*

Specifically I vowed to never again even entertain a date with anyone who *I* wasn't absolutely mad about. It's a resolution I would make again.

Not that picking those feelings and motivations apart is the easiest...